Generation Y

         The generation I belong to would be "Generation Y."  That is being born between 1977 to 1998.  This generation understand a lot more about technology because they grew up in this environment.  Technology has always been part of their life, and the people in this generation probably would have a hard time without it.  They prefer to using online sources to learn, and taking online courses.  The primary source of communication is through technology, for example text messages. This generation is also more creative at solving problems.

         "Generation Y" people are individualistic, creative, and they like to write their own rules.  They work well in a team, and they strive for balance in their work and life.  They value in achievement and are confident in their ability to get things done within their time period.  

         This generation is most ethnically diverse generation ever.  More Hispanics and Asians along with other ethnics are growing.  The perceptions of other ethnics are changing also.  Generation Y is more open to accepting other diverse backgrounds and beliefs.  

         There has been lots of violence around the world that occurred.  The world is more concerned about violence now, and more cautious.  Since the attack on 9/11, and terrorism attacks, and school shootings people globally are taking violence more serious.  

Group Skills

Skills I can help with in a group

1.  Organize:  I like organizing the things I do, and writing the plans down so I know exactly when and where it is.  I like to plan ahead of time to make sure there is enough time to get things done.  

2.  Active listening:  I know it's hard to listen to what others have to say.  I am a person with little words, and I don't like to cut out others.  I listen to what others have to say, and I take their opinions into consideration.  

3.  Leadership:  I may not be a person who can speak their mind all the time, but I know the limits.  I want everyone to give out their ideas, and I will listen to what others have to say.  I do not make all the decisions on my own.  When it comes down to the team, it's all about team work.  

Proposed conduct:

What I think would be a great idea is everyone updates each other, whether it's through email, text, phone calls, or meet ups.  Have a day and a specific time that everyone must update.  Even if you don't have anything, at least let the group know.  This way we all will know how much work we got done, and what we still need to do.

My Conflict Rankings:

1. Collaborate:  15                
2. Competition      9 
3. Compromise      13
4. Accommodate   13 
5. Avoidance    12

In a way I do think this is true, but then again it depends on the situation of the conflict.  Most of the time in a conflict I want everyone to cooperate, and agree.  I don't like to see the other people lose, but neither do I want to lose.  I like to look for a solution that will make everyone happy, but it is the hardest to do also.  It's hard for everyone to agree on one thing I know that, but I like to make it fair.  

Conflicts!

Describe a time in which you suppressed or censored your feelings in a conflict. Why did you decide to do so? What was the result? Next, describe a time when you decided to express your feelings in a conflict. Why did you decide to speak up? What were the results? Where you able to resolve the conflict? If so, how? You may want to consider utilzing some of the terms on conflict in your answers (pg. 226-233).


    I am a person who don't like conflicts.  I don't like arguments because it never goes anywhere.  

   One time that I suppressed my feelings in a conflict was with a person I knew.  She always want everything her way.  One day we decided to meet each other and do a cook out.  All the cooking was my ideas and recipes, she was just simply there to help me prep.  At first she would just let me do what I had to do, but then as I started cooking, I keep hearing her say to the other people, "Is it going to be good?"  She kept coming to me telling me to do this and do that.  She would tell me to not do this and not do that. Just ordering me around telling me how to cook my things.  Of course I respected her, so I didn't say anything.  All I kept saying was it was going to be ok.  I was trying so hard to show assertiveness in this conflict.  I could hear her blabbing her mouth saying that what I am doing is wrong, and it's weird, and it's not right.  I just began to ignored her, and thought to myself to just get it over with, and be out of here.  I decided to not say anything because she was older than me, and people respect her.  I didn't want to get into arguments with her, because I knew it would just be embarrassing.  

    The time that I did express my feelings in the conflict did not turn out well.  Even though I spoke the truth, the other person just couldn't handle it.  This kind of conflict are what they call flames.  Online insults. I don't like online insults because it's pointless.  That's why I never cared to express my feelings on it.  This time I had to because it was people who were really close to me.  It was also an interpersonal conflict.     A conflict with two or more people.  I thought I could let them know what I thought, since we were so close.  They always say things to me that are inappropriate,  and I don't say anything back.  Of course when expressing your feelings online, it's harder to tell what the other person's really feeling because you can't hear their tone of voice.  It seem through words that one of them was expressing aggressive feelings towards me.  They both said I never want to hang out with them, and just said I was making excuses.  It was only this one time that I had made an excuse not to hang out with them.  It's a legit excuse too.  I didn't want to get into argument over something like this, but I had to tell them what I thought is the truth.  So I had to tell them that it's not true, and every time we get together I do hang out with them, so if that's what they think than they can go ahead and think however they like to.  One just kept messaging back to me, saying that I was getting mad, and that I shouldn't be like that.  She said I was putting words in her mouth.  I typed back to her to exact words that she wrote to me.  Afterwards, she said that the conversation was getting too out of hands, and she was not going to be in it anymore.  She left.  The other person wrote back, and said she was just joking, and apologized.  The one that apologized to me, we didn't have any thing else to worry about.  The other one who just left, she and I never resolved it.  We just don't talk about it anymore.  So did we resolve it?  I don't know.       

Listening?

In your essay, first describe what the main message of Julian Treasure’s video was. Do you agree or disagree with his main message? Next, try one of the 5 exercises that Juilian Treasure suggests to improve your listening. Describe for your blog audience which exercise you tried and the results. What did you hear? What happened? How do you think these exercise(s) could improve your life and your ability to listen?

       The main message of this video is that we should listen to the physical world around us, and connect with it to fully be living.  Listening is a skill  we need to learn to live in peace.  After I watched this video, yes I think I do agree with it.  We live in a world of multitasking, and we are so busy, and so is everyone around us.  We just rush through everything, and we don't take the time to listen to our situations.  Yes, like in the video maybe that's why there are fights, and wars.  One of the exercises I did was the acronym exercise.  I applied RASA to the exercise.  Receive, appreciate, summarize, and ask.  First of all, I had my husband sit down with me, and talk to me about how he felt about kickboxing, and what plans he had.  My husband likes kickboxing, and MMA fights.  I sat down with him, and we shut off everything around us, and had our kids play in their rooms.  I followed the steps in the RASA exercise.  When he talked I paid attention, and I would make sounds like "uh huh" or "hmm" or "oh ok".  When he would say something I wanted to go more in depth with, I would say "so" and "by the way".  Whenever I was lost or confused I would always ask him questions.  There were times when I wasn't listening, I would bug in about something else, and he would forget what he was going to say.  We would try to get back on track.  I heard a lot of kickboxing noises as he mimics the moves he showed me.  We carried a pretty good conversation through this listening exercise.  I think these exercise would help a lot to improve my life.  If we actively listen, I think we could understand each other more.  It will make life easier.